DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve inherited 4 canine from relations. I used to be out of state for a month (my husband was house) when two of them had been dognapped, pushed 42 miles away and deserted within the wilderness.
I suspected who had carried out it immediately, however once I heard the place the canine had been deserted, I knew unquestionably.
We had been fortunate: One canine was microchipped, which finally led him again to us. Each had been cared for by rescue foundations till I may deliver them house.
The one who did it’s our son’s girlfriend — and the mom of his youngster. We’re appalled and really feel betrayed and sickened.
My son admitted he knew she had carried out it. He confirmed regret and gave a heartfelt apology. She has utterly prevented us, with no admission or apology.
Ought to we press expenses for stealing our canine and abandoning them? They dwell on our property in a house we personal, and pay nothing to dwell right here.
She and I was shut. Now my husband and I not wish to have her round. All belief is gone.
Please advise me the best way to take care of this.
VICTIM IN OHIO
DEAR VICTIM: Did the canine do something to threaten the girlfriend or your grandchild? If the reply is sure, then these animals current a hazard.
If the reply isn’t any, inform your son you intend to press expenses towards his girlfriend for theft and animal cruelty, and also you anticipate him to corroborate that she was the perpetrator. If he refuses, give them a date by which they need to be off your property.
DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago misplaced my treasured husband of 43 years to COVID. For sure, this can be a very painful time for me.
Since his passing, my “greatest good friend” has been blowing me off if we now have plans, and not calling or texting in any respect.
I don’t get it. I’ve carried out lots for her throughout our friendship. I’m experiencing the toughest time in my life, and I really want a good friend.
Now I’m not solely grieving the lack of my husband, however I’m additionally grieving a misplaced friendship and don’t perceive why. Apart from confronting her, is there something I can do?
LONELY AND SAD IN NEVADA
DEAR LONELY: Please settle for my sympathy for the lack of your husband. That your good friend is behaving the way in which she has been is regrettable. Earlier than confronting her, please let me recommend some issues you are able to do: Be part of a grief help group when you don’t already belong to at least one. Your physician or non secular adviser can direct you to at least one. Keep bodily and mentally energetic, which offers you much less time to brood.
After that, you’ll be able to resolve whether or not it’s in your curiosity to confront this particular person for her incapacity or unwillingness to be current for you if you wanted her most.
Don’t anticipate her to magically change when you do that, however it could present you the chance to get what’s bothering you off your chest, which you might be actually entitled to do.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.