DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve inherited 4 canines from family. I used to be out of state for a month (my husband was dwelling) when two of them had been dognapped, pushed 42 miles away and deserted within the wilderness.
I suspected who had carried out it straight away, however once I heard the place the canines had been deserted, I knew no doubt.
We had been fortunate: One canine was microchipped, which finally led him again to us. Each had been cared for by rescue foundations till I might carry them dwelling.
The one who did it’s our son’s girlfriend — and the mom of his baby. We’re appalled and really feel betrayed and sickened.
My son admitted he knew she had carried out it. He confirmed regret and gave a heartfelt apology. She has utterly averted us, with no admission or apology.
Ought to we press fees for stealing our canines and abandoning them? They dwell on our property in a house we personal, and pay nothing to dwell right here.
She and I was shut. Now my husband and I now not need to have her round. All belief is gone.
Please advise me take care of this.
VICTIM IN OHIO
DEAR VICTIM: Did the canines do something to threaten the girlfriend or your grandchild? If the reply is sure, then these animals current a hazard.
If the reply isn’t any, inform your son you intend to press fees towards his girlfriend for theft and animal cruelty, and also you count on him to corroborate that she was the perpetrator. If he refuses, give them a date by which they need to be off your property.
DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago misplaced my treasured husband of 43 years to COVID. For sure, this can be a very painful time for me.
Since his passing, my “greatest good friend” has been blowing me off if now we have plans, and now not calling or texting in any respect.
I don’t get it. I’ve carried out so much for her throughout our friendship. I’m experiencing the toughest time in my life, and I actually need a good friend.
Now I’m not solely grieving the lack of my husband, however I’m additionally grieving a misplaced friendship and don’t perceive why. Other than confronting her, is there something I can do?
LONELY AND SAD IN NEVADA
DEAR LONELY: Please settle for my sympathy for the lack of your husband. That your good friend is behaving the best way she has been is regrettable. Earlier than confronting her, please let me counsel some issues you are able to do: Be a part of a grief help group for those who don’t already belong to 1. Your physician or non secular adviser can direct you to 1. Keep bodily and mentally lively, which provides you with much less time to brood.
After that, you may determine whether or not it’s in your curiosity to confront this particular person for her lack of ability or unwillingness to be current for you whenever you wanted her most.
Don’t count on her to magically change for those who do that, however it could present you the chance to get what’s bothering you off your chest, which you’re definitely entitled to do.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.